If you have traveled on a flight, you must have heard the announcement
that in the case of emergency put on the oxygen mask yourself before you help
your co-passengers. Many of us have tendencies to put ourselves at last and
mostly this is a great thing. But, in many facets of life, just like in an
airplane, it is crucial to think about you before others. Relationships, for
example, develop this tendency in certain individuals to cater to the needs and
well-being of your partner so much that they tend to completely ignore their
own emotional well-being. A healthy relationship is healthy only as long as both
the partners are mutually and equally involved without one partner’s emotional
needs getting side-tracked. It is quite simple actually – Unless you are happy
yourself and value yourself in a relationship, you can’t really make another
person happy. Some are adept in valuing a relationship so much that they can
completely forget their own worth.
Let’s take a look at how you can focus and value yourself in a relationship:
- Self-care“A
healthy mind resides in a healthy body” – For a healthy relationship to
thrive, and to value yourself, it is absolutely essential that you
maintain proper self-care. This is not in relevance to your emotional
needs, but your basic physical needs too. Proper sleep, balanced diet,
enough rest, less stress and any kind of physical exercise will really
help to keep you fit and healthy. If these basics are not taken care of,
you will feel the stress draining out the best of you and eventually it
will affect your relationship too.
- Joy
of small thingsTake a little time off every day to connect to something
you really like doing. Maybe a hobby that you had given up due to lack of
time, maybe shopping or yoga. Or anything that helps you turn yourself off
from the chores and gives you some space to be with yourself. Give
yourself a little treat every now and then as you need a break too at times.
Taking a long warm bath. Or going for an evening walk in the park. Even a
bar of chocolate can restore your emotional reserve and make you cheerful.
- MeditateMeditation
is one of the most effective ways to maintain a peace of mind. It works as
an amazing stress-buster and helps rejuvenate your health as well as
freshens up your mind. Regular meditation is very effective in shaping up
and channelizing your emotions and stress in the best possible way.
- TimeTime
is the best gift that one can give, or rather the best gift you can give
yourself. No matter how busy your schedules are and irrespective of how
stressful your day has been, always keep a little time separate for you to
sit by yourself. Read that book you have been dying to read or listen to
music that you can relate to. Or simply sit and reflect on your daily
activities, short-term and long-term goals. Spending a little time with
yourself will help you organize your thoughts and wishes. Contribute
hugely to help you value yourself in a relationship.
- Be
your best friendAnytime you have a negative thought or when in doubt, be
your own best friend. Talk to yourself and weigh the pros and cons like
your friend, sister or mother would do. Motivate yourself and remind how
much you contribute to a relationship.
Rough patches in any relationship crop up
many a time and can shake up your long-term relationship. However, value
yourself and let go off the past graciously to move ahead.
