“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the
fear of failure.” ― Paulo Coelho
How often we regret for certain things we haven’t
done in life. We dwell in those moments and regrets thinking about, if I had
taken some action, life could have been much better. Yes, this is a situation
most of us face in lives, not once but many. Why, I keep questioning to myself,
why certain things happen in our lives, what sometimes we never had wished for
even in our wildest dreams, it just happens. Or we never do that one thing we
wanted to do for reasons we know not. We simply fail to act. This fear, as we
grow, grows with us ensnaring us in each and every thought that crops up.
Encountering such little things in our daily lives, we get trapped into it so
much that we allow the fear to overpower us. And each day becomes a struggle.
Finally, there comes one moment, when enduring is no longer possible and that
moment is what changes us and changes our lives for better.
These lines as I write now, reminds me of my past
days. In my pursuit of restarting my career what I had thought could help me,
failed in every way. It took me years to figure out what my needs were of my
life. Now, having come a long way, I am able to reason out that it was due to
my fear of insecurity I chose the wrong decision. However, I am a strong
believer of nothing goes waste, rather experiences add on value to our lives.
Yes, it did help me to overcome fears and emerged me as a winner.
Here are the
ways to overcome fears:
- Stop comparing: We tend to
compare ourselves with others and that is what keeps us bothering all the
time. It robs us of our goals, setting our standards much lower than our
capabilities.
- Give yourself time: Soon
after acknowledging that something very wrong is going on in your life, or
when you feel you are compelled to take a certain decision and you are not
happy, back off. Give yourself ample time to accept the situation.
- Accept yourself: It’s your
thoughts what matters you the most about yourself. So, stop regretting
about that one decision that changed your course of life. Take it as your
destiny or what it was meant to be.
- Filter your thoughts: Our
minds are in a great turbulence for a lot of reasons. Firstly, the
regrets, secondly the consequences and then, the future. As we aim for a
better version of ourselves, random thoughts cross our minds. A conscious
effort has to be made to keep out the negative thoughts and negative
people.
- Keep going: This is the most
difficult part of our lives. We tend to withdraw ourselves as the fear of
failure engulfs us. Taking it as a part of the game, keep going.
There! You can see yourself emerging as a winner.
So, go ahead and make a real change in your life and understand the true calling of your life. Live a life of your dreams. After
all, life is meant to be lived and living it to the fullest is wisdom.
Would love to know, how did you overcome fears?
